Dating sober man
With somebody not in recovery, can they really ever understand your plight or your background? For those of us who are lucky enough to have escaped addiction to drugs or alcohol, there’s still a lot of things to negotiate.Nothing is cut and dry, and love is messy wherever you find it.During the past two decades, I’ve dated both men in recovery and men who weren’t alcoholics (called “normies” by us in the program).I’m currently single again, a sober divorcée in the strange world of online dating. How do you allude to your past (and present) situations without lying or scaring off a potential match?
Still, alcohol plays a very big role in dating culture, and those who don't partake in a couple cocktails are presented with a unique set of challenges in the quest to meet someone special.
Sam continues, “Dating in the program is obviously nice, because you speak the same language and you don't have to hide your ugly past.
However, the chance of that person relapsing can also be very high.” And, she would know.
“Listen, before we do this, I need to tell you something...”I agree.
That’s one of the main upsides to dating somebody who’s also sober.
You can tell them, “I’ve been in six rehabs, four psych wards, and I’ve been arrested for assault.” And, they’re like, “Of course you have.” The downside is that they, too, are often a ticking time bomb.